In a world full of people with seemingly perfect lives on social media, it can be quite natural to convince yourself that you aren’t doing as well as you should be. Waking up to yet another timeline flooded with new houses, new cars, new engagements, new Chanel bags, and more international trips to exotic islands- it can really start to make you question yourself and your purpose in life. Guess what? A majority of the things you see online are not always as perfect as they seem. And even if they are, who cares! What’s for you is for you- and with a little faith and a lot of hard work, your life can be exactly how you envisioned it to be. So whenever that self doubts tries to creep in, here are a few things to consider.
You may be comparing your chapter 1 to someone else’s chapter 20. You just got the keys to your cute new apartment and then log on Instagram to see that Brittany from high school just closed on a beautiful new home. What you didn’t see was that Brittany had been evicted from her apartment two years ago and has been sleeping on a friend’s couch to save up money for a down payment on a home. You didn’t see that Brittany got denied by 3 different banks to get a loan, but kept on submitting applications, even though her credit score took a hit every time. You didn’t see how much Brittany compromised and how many sacrifices she made to close on that home- all you saw was the pretty picture on Instagram. So don’t compare yourself to Brittany. Instead congratulate her on her new home and enjoy your new apartment. There are many people in the world who worked tirelessly and deserve all the blessings bestowed upon them. And while you may not know when this is the case, it doesn’t matter. Be happy for them.
People only show you what they want you to see. Charmaine uploaded a video of her NFL boyfriend proposing to her with a 5 carat diamond ring, after he just gifted her a brand new Mercedes a few weeks before. What Charmaine didn’t upload was the pregnancy test results of the girl her boyfriend has been cheating with, or the black eye her boyfriend gave her when she confronted him about it. Yes, this may be an extreme example, but it happens more often than not! If that example was too heavy, I’ll humor you. Do you know haw many “Instagram models” are wearing five thousand dollar bags, but don’t have $500 in their bank account? Do you know how many guys post pictures in rented foreign cars, but can’t afford to pick up their tab at a restaurant?? My point is this, in the age of technology, people can create the life they want you to believe they have simply by the things they post on social media. Don’t get me wrong. Some people actually are in happy and committed relationships. Some people actually can afford foreign whips and Chanel bags. But a lot of people are also fronting. Debate me.
God never tells us no. Its either: “yes”, “not right now” or “I have something better in mind.” Let’s forget about social media for a second and just focus on the fact that what God has for you is for you! I remember back when I was working for Marriott, I applied for a position at another hotel in the city. When I didn’t get that job, I was devastated because I thought that God had told me no. He didn’t. Not even a year later, I got the position at my current job with a better benefits package, a better schedule, a bigger impact on the Atlanta hospitality community, and a salary increase that brought me to tears. God has never taken anything from me and not come back with something even greater. And if He has taken something and not replaced it, it just means that He hasn’t replaced it yet. Often times we ask for things not realizing we don’t need them. God has a way of putting us in the right place at the right time and we just have to learn how to trust his timing.
Remember: comparison is the thief of joy. Don’t get on social media dissecting someone else’s life (or rather the life they chose to show). Instead, worry about yourself, practice gratitude, stay in your own lane, and live your best life!